Many parents want their children to grow up to be kind and considerate. However, most of these parents are not taking the correct steps to do this.
This is because the concept “kind and considerate” is very abstract and most parents do not know how to go about teaching their child how to be “kind and considerate”.
In this article, we will introduce some cautions parents should take when trying to raise their children to be “kind and considerate”.
Create a clear definition of the term “kind and considerate child”
Simply telling your child to be “kind and considerate” will not be effective unless he/she knows what this means.
It is important for parents to clearly define what their image of a “kind and considerate child” is to their child first.
A child who offers to help a friend who is having trouble
A child who treats children who are older and younger than him/herself nicely
A child who takes care of plants and animals
Sharing with your child the above definitions will help him/her create an image and pay attention to these actions on a regular basis.
Raise a child who can take concrete actions
How can parents encourage their child to take the actions that they believe are required to become a “kind and considerate” child?
Show them how to be “kind and considerate”
Acting as a role model is often the most effective. Children are often watching their parents’ actions very carefully.
So, showing them through actions is often more effective than trying to explain using words.
Praise children who are acting “kind and considerate”
While with your child, praise other children (whether in real life of in a storybook) who are acting “kind and considerate”.
“..chan is showing …chan how to do something he/she is having trouble with. Isn’t that nice.”
Explaining which actions are “kind and considerate” in an easy-to-understand way with lots of specific examples is usually effective.
Praise your child when he/she performs a “kind and considerate” action
When a child is praised more than usual, he/she will understand that his/her action is positive and will be motivated to repeat it in the future.
As time passes, he/she will naturally repeat these actions and become even more of a “kind and considerate” child.
How to raise a caring person
In order to raise a “kind and considerate” person, it is important to raise a child who is caring.
To care for people you need to understand their feelings and emotions. Encouraging your child to think about others are feeling on a regular basis will help him/her develop into a caring person.
It is also effective to use picture books to show how people feel when specific events happen.
Raising children who respect individuality All people are not born with the same abilities. Some children are not good at sports, some children are not good at studying, some children have disabilities. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and comes from different environments. Children who can understand and respect these individualities are defined as “kind and considerate”. Attending early childhood classes will enable your child to interact with people of different ages and backgrounds from a young age. This will help them learn the importance of individuality and cooperation with peers.