Every child has a different personality.
Some children are very social and others are shy.
Some children are rarely scared while others get scared easily.
Where do these differences in personality come from?
There are many factors that come into play when determining a child’s personality.
According to many theories, such as the “Simons-type classification theory”, a parent’s behavior is thought to be one of the main factors.
“The Simons-type Classification Theory”, was developed by an American Psychologist and is based on the relationship between a child’s personality and the parent’s behavior.
The classification system is separated into the following 4 patterns: [Dominance], [Obedience], [Protection] and [Denial].
A behavioral style where parents make coercive commands and force their children to act in a certain manner.
Raising children using this method, will force children to be obedient.
However, this may also cause them to be passive to their parent’s requests.
This style is the opposite of the dominance style and parents react based on their children’s mood.
Parents listen to their children’s wants and give them whatever they can.
As a result, children begin to ignore what others say and sometimes become violent and develop a self-centered personality.
Parents are overprotective of their children.
As a result, children do not learn how to protect and take care of themselves.
However, they do feel safe psychologically.
This style is the opposite of protection style and parents ignore their children and deny their actions.
These children often feel unsafe and unstable and have a hard time calming down.
This often leads them to be violent and act out against society.
There are many cases where the parents combine the above patterns.
[Dominance + Protection]
In this pattern, parents end up doing too much for their children and give them limited opportunity to act on their own.
As a result, children become dependent on their parents and have a hard time entering a social group.
[Protection + Obedience]
Parents spoil their children and do everything for them.
As a result, children become self-centered with little perseverance and often end up developing a disobedient personality.
[Obedience and Denial]
In this pattern, children are ignored by their parents.
Children often become jealous, nervous and antsy and sometimes also lonely.
[Denial and Dominance]
In this pattern, children are being ignored but at the same time being controlled.
Children become stubborn and sometimes try to run away from their parents.
How should parents change their behavior if they find themselves in any of the above categories?
It is best if they can find a balance between all 4 patterns; dominance and obedience and protection and denial.
Of course, there are many other factors, such as the child’s living environment and his/her own understanding that also influence their personality.
However, it is the influence from their parents, who they are with everyday, that has the most impact.
It is important to remember that a parent’s behavior has a large impact on their child’s personality.