When children turn 9 years old, they undergo a great emotional transformation.
Friends. Parents. Teachers. They begin to think about who they are and where they belong in relation to others.
They also begin to compare themselves to others and suffer setbacks.
We call this the “9-year-old barrier”. Some kids can overcome it with no problem and others struggle.
Let’s explore how we can make sure that our children have the emotional, education and communication strength to overcome “the 9-year-old barrier”.
A child’s brain continues to develop as he/she grows.
As babies, we react to sound and our brain develops while listening to the world around us.
When babies start crawling, they begin to put various objects in their mouth and explore the world around them through touch. Their brain begins to remember these feelings.
When toddlers start walking, they become interested in everything that is in the eye range and the brain remembers whatever they see.
Children continue to grow and their brain develops along with this growth.
Around the age of 10, brain development speeds up and then starts to slow down.
As a result, how children use their 5 senses and encourage their development before they reach the end of the elementary school years has a large influence on their physical and cognitive abilities.
Using their hands and feet; responding to sounds; grabbing moving objects and experiencing wind and rain.
It is important that we, as parents, allow our children to use their bodies and minds and play a lot during their early childhood.
Children who have experience using their 5 senses from a young age are better able to tackle any problem that comes their way.
However, children who develop without much use of their 5 senses are often unable to overcome hurdles due to limited thinking ability.
When children turn 9 years old the way they play with their friends changes.
Children who enjoyed playing with anyone all of a sudden only want to play with certain friends.
This change is the result of their psychological growth but can lead to various problems.
In a group of 3, sometimes one person is left out. No one wants to feel left out so they try to gauge their friend’s feelings and try to be liked.
The question is whether they can let their friend know that they should stop leaving them out.
How a child will react when in the above situation is closely linked to their experiences with people when they were young.
Children, who played with friends of different ages and backgrounds and interacted with adults other than their parents from a young age, naturally gain the skills required to listen to others and think about the other person’s feelings. These children can determine how they can successfully interact with others based on their experiences during young childhood.
However, children who have only experienced interacting with family and close friends in an enclosed environment often grow up without knowing how to form and keep a relationship.
As a result, they have a hard time listening to other people and sharing their thoughts. This makes it difficult for them to form new relationships.
The following skills are required for the child’s future: the ability to think, the ability to communicate, the ability to share one’s ideas, the ability to avoid problems and many more.
Whether children pick up these skills or not is closely linked to how they played during the toddler years.
Let’s try to observe how our children play and do what we can to help them grow.