How to raise a tenacious and successful child


“GRIT” is regarded as the most important characteristic of American education. Mark Zuckerberg defines “GRIT” as “the ability to persevere” and considers it to be “the secret to success”. Why do we need “GRIT” to succeed?

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Why is tenacity important? 

“GRIT” is an acronym for “Guts”, “Resilience”, “Initiative” and “Tenacity”. Based on the survey results of Associate Professor Angela Duckworth at the University of Pennsylvania, most Americans feel that “GRIT” was a factor in their success.
No matter how curious or talented you are, you will not receive results without “GRIT”. Individual whose “GRIT” is high are more likely to be successful in study, sports and even life in general.
Keep in mind that anyone can develop “GRIT”, no matter their IQ or how talented they are. However, it is important that it is developed from a young age.

Points to Consider when Raising a Tenacious Child

Repeat Successful Experiences

It is important for young children to learn that if they do their best, they will be able to accomplish things. Parents should allow their children to find something they are interested in and repeat the activity until they are successful. This way, they will feel continue to challenge themselves and gain self-confidence.

Let them follow their interests

Let your child try things he/she is interested in and decide whether he/she likes it or not. Helping with the housework and playing at the park are both challenging for young children. Children are more likely to continue their hobbies and lessons if they choose them on their own. The longer children continue lessons they more successful they will become.

Clarify goals and objectives

When children find an activity that they want to continue, parents should clarify their goals and objectives to help them succeed. For example, if your child is interested in learning how to draw well, encourage him/her to think of why he/she likes to draw. Understanding the reason why they want to draw will help them think about the reason while they perform the activity and improve their concentration. When they see that the person, they created the drawing for is happy when they receive it, they will gain a sense of accomplishment.

Provide the appropriate environment

It is important for parents to create an environment where their child can easily get absorbed in the activity. If the activity requires the use of props or tools, it is a good idea for parents to prepare child-sized tools and a specific spot to keep them. It is also important that parents respect their child’s desire to finish the activity and try not to interrupt or help their child when they don’t want it.

Compliment their efforts

Parents should praise their child’s efforts rather than the end results. For example, children are happy when they are praised for being dexterous but when things go wrong the next time, they may feel embarrassed or upset. However, if children are instead praised for their efforts and for trying their best, they will understand that when things don’t go well it is because they did not put in enough effort and not because they cannot do it.

In this article, we covered the importance of tenacity and how parents can raise a tenacious child. For children to be absorbed in an activity and work hard at it, they need to be given the appropriate environment to thrive. Seeing their parents enthusiastic about something is a great stimulus for the child but seeing friends of the same age performing the activity during classes or preschool can also be effective. It is beneficial for parents to help their child discover their interests and encourage him/her to work persistently.