Are parents responsible for their child’s inability to develop communication skills?


Since communication with others is an important part of life, many parents are concerned about their children’s communication skills. Communication skills are not something you are born with but they are nurtured by the environment in which you are raised. In particular, it is greatly influenced by the way parents, who are with their children the most, interact with them. Below are some reasons why communication skills do not develop and what parents can do about it.


What prevents communication skills from being developed?

Communication skills do not develop properly when, (1) children avoid communicating with others, (2) children are not good at interacting with others. Many children are communicative when they are 2 or 3 years old but they often lose confidence and speak less when they continue to experience negative reactions when they speak up. These memories of failure can lead to a dislike of communicating with others and a lack of self-confidence, resulting in fewer opportunities to develop communication skills.

How can people learn to like communicating with others?

Developing a love of communicating with others is an important part of developing communication skills. Children who are raised in an environment where their parents are receptive and listen to what they have to say and feel safe speaking freely usually develop good communication skills. Communication is not only about expressing one’s feelings one way or the other, but also about eliciting the feelings and thoughts of others. When children receive communication that they enjoy from their parents, they will come to like communication.

What can parents do to improve their child’s communication skills?

To ensure that children enjoy communicating with others, it is important to be aware of the following points on a regular basis.

1. Listen carefully to your child when he/she is speaking.
2. Don’t make a big deal when he/she makes a mistake (words or content)
3. Accept your child’s feelings when he/she shares them with you
4. Praise them for their effort as well as the result
5. Be aware that there are many ways to think about things and don’t worry as much about the right answer

The way parents interact with their children has a significant effect on their child’s communication skills. However, parents are often busy and it is difficult for them to interact with their children as much as they would like to. Therefore, it is recommended to send your child to a preschool classroom where they will have plenty of opportunities to communicate with teachers and peers.