When children are 2-3 years old, they start stating their opinions, which can often sound like they are being selfish to parents.
However, learning to be self-assertive is an important part of growing up.
Therefore, it is not a good idea to claim that your child is being selfish whenever they are self-assertive.
In this article, we will explain the difference between self-assertiveness and selfishness and how parents can encourage their child’s development.
So, what is the difference between self-assertiveness and selfishness?
Being self-assertive is sharing your thoughts and ideas with others. Being selfish, is forcing your thoughts and ideas on others even if they do not like them or want to do them.
Parents should listen to what their child has to say carefully and when they feel their child is being selfish it is important that they explain why so that their child understands.
This will help their child understand the difference between being self-assertive and selfish.
Most people have seen children whining in the store when they want their parents to buy them a candy or toy.
When this happens, parents often want to scold their child for being selfish. However, it is a great opportunity for parents to expand their child’s thinking skills. Instead of just saying “no” to your child, try asking them “what can you do to encourage me to buy it for you?”.
This will encourage your child to think of the possible ways to get you to buy the item for them.
If they want you to buy them a toy, they will think about waiting until their next birthday or Christmas or try doing lots of chores at home so they can earn it.
When you think that your child is acting selfish instead of rejecting it try talking with them.
In time, they will start to think for themselves and tell you without waiting for you to ask.
If you scold your child, when they are selfish, they will be discouraged to think for themselves.
We have listed some better ways to handle your child’s selfishness below for your reference.
Families tend to stay indoors during the cold winter months. However, if it snows, why not enjoy playing outside as well?
There are many kinds of snow play, such as making a snowman or having a snowball fight. But many parents are worried that their young child will get hurt. In this article, we will introduce snow play activities that even younger children can enjoy safely.
We will also go over some cautions and tips parents should keep in mind when playing in the snow with their children.
The standard snow activity is making a snowman.
We will explain how to make a small snowman the size of their hands. First, make 2 balls of snow that can be easily held in your child’s hands.
Then find some sticks or nuts to stick into the snowball to form the face and arms.
Once they get used to making a snowman, children can try making a larger one with their mom or dad. If the top and bottom are not balanced then the snowman will break so be careful to put the larger snowball on the bottom (a 4 to 3 ratio is a good start).
Also, snow that is full of ice or has just fallen is harder to make into a nice ball so be careful.
In this activity, children use paint to make colored water and paint in the snow.
Melt the paint in a small cup and use a paint brush to draw in the snow. Using paint on a snowman will make it colorful.
The colored snow will look like shaved ice so make sure younger children do not put it in their mouths. If you are concerned you can use paint that is edible.
Also make sure that children are wearing clothing, coats, etc. that can get dirty.
In this activity, children search for “treasures” that have been hidden in the snow.
When children are playing indoors, mom or dad can rope off the search area and hide “treasures” in the snow.
It is important to use “treasures” that can get wet (so no paper).
Also, breakable items should not be used because someone may step on them by accident.
Call all the children together when all the items have been hidden and begin the treasure hunt.
If it is snowing outside, the items will be hidden in more snow quickly so please limit the play time.
In a new environment, children are often unaware of the dangers around them and are more likely to get hurt. We have listed some cautions parents should take to avoid accidents and injury.
Many children gain interest in Valentine’s Day when they are in Kindergarten.
Although many moms want to take advantage of this interest and make chocolates with their young children, they have trouble finding an easy recipe.
In this article, we will introduce a few easy recipes that families with young children can try this Valentine’s Day.
They all include few ingredients. Please try giving homemade presents this year to friends and family.
A simple lollipop made with marshmallows and chocolate.
Ingredients（For 15 lollipops）
Marshmallows 15 marshmallows
Milk chocolate 50 grams
Chocolate Pen As many as needed
Sprinkles and Chocolate Spray As much as needed
Straws 15 straws
1. Break the chocolate in small pieces and melt it over hot water.
2. Put the marshmallows on straws and dip into the melted chocolate.
3. Take off the extra chocolate with a rubber spatula.
4. Decorate with chocolate spray and sprinkles.
5. Leave standing until the chocolate hardens.
6. Wrap when the chocolate has hardened.
When using a chocolate pen to decorate, make sure to wait until the chocolate has hardened.
Baking chocolate 400 grams
Sprinkles, Chocolate Spray, etc. As much as needed
Aluminum cups 20 cups（3cm circumference）
1. Put the chocolate in a microwave-safe bowl and melt in the microwave without plastic wrap.
The heating time will depend on the amount of chocolate and the microwave being used so please keep your eye on it.
2. Once the chocolate is melted, pour it into the cups.
3. Decorate with chocolate spray, sprinkles and other decorations.
4. Chill in the refrigerator until the chocolate has hardened completely.
5. Finally, remove from the aluminum cups and wrap.
Mixing the chocolate will help make it smooth and creamy.
Once you transfer the chocolate into the cups make sure to tap the cups on the counter or table to remove any bubbles.
Crispy crunch chocolates.
Milk chocolate bars 6 bars
Hard biscuits 150～180 grams
1. Break the chocolate into small pieces and melt over hot water.
2. Put the hard biscuits in a plastic bag and crush into small pieces.
3. Put the crushed biscuits into the melted chocolate a little at a time.
4. Place a cooking sheet on a cutting board and pour on the chocolate and biscuit combination created in step 3.
5. Leave at room temperature for 2-3 hours until hardened and cut into pieces.
6. Put into the refrigerator to completely hardened.
Be careful that the biscuits are spread evenly and covered completely in chocolate.
We introduced 3 recipes with easy to find ingredients.
The directions are easy enough for younger children to follow. The wrapping and decorations can often be found at the 100 Yen shop so children can choose by themselves.
Scolding your child is an inevitable part of raising them. However, when adults continue to use negative words when scolding, children lose their self-confidence.
In this article, we will cover the adverse effects of using negative words when scolding and give some tips on how adults can scold without using these words.
Many parents end up using negative language when scolding their child.
Some parents use phrases like “you can’t do ……” or “why can’t you ……”.
And when children act out in public many parents say things like “I won’t take you here anymore”, “I am going to leave you here”, “I hate kids that do things like that”.
As a parent, we scold our child because we want them to learn how to act appropriately.
However, no one feels good when they are bombarded with negative language. Most adults have experienced being called negative things by others and were damaged internally. Children feel the same way.
Being bombarded with negative language on a daily basis causes people to feel bad about themselves and feel that whatever they do is not good enough.
This causes us to lose self-confidence and feel negatively about ourselves. So, let’s be careful about us using too much negative language in our speech.
When you feel like you have something negative to say, take a step back and a deep breath.
Then think about how you can make your thoughts more positive it will help you cool down.
For example, you can change “don’t do that” to “let’s do this instead”.
You can change “don’t speak so loudly” to “let’s use a quiet voice”.
If you want to say “you need to clean-up”, you can instead say “let’s clean-up” or “have you finished cleaning up?”.
Using these phrases instead will have a positive effect on your child.
It is also a good idea to praise your child with phrases like “good job” or “I like …. who is good at ….”.
In our busy lives where we do not have the extra time to think about what we say; many parents end up using negative language to scold their child.
However, using this type of language on a regular basis can really hurt your child. When scolding your child, please try to avoid using negative language and protect their feelings about themselves.
Attending mommy and me and drop-off classes is also an effective way to improve your child’s self-confidence and feelings about him/herself.
When they are able to perform a task during the class, they feel good about themselves and it is also a good opportunity to receive praise from their parents.
Many mothers start considering whether it is time to stop breastfeeding when their child turns one. However, stopping suddenly can be hard for both mom and child.
Whenever possible it is best to consider the best timing and stop naturally.
In this article, we will cover the standard time to stop breastfeeding and how to stop naturally.
There is no clear answer but instead many moms consider how long it is acceptable to breastfeed if their child asks for it.
During the 90’s, the “Mom & Child Handbook” from the government suggested to stop breastfeeding between the age of 1 year and 1 and a half years old. However, from 2002, there was no mention of when to stop breastfeeding and instead a suggestion to wait until the best timing for the mom and child. In Japan, 90% of moms breastfeed until their child is 2 years old. However, according to a UNICEF survey of countries (including less developed nations) on average moms stop breastfeeding when their child is 4.2 years old. Also, WHO (World Health Organization) states that there is no problem with continuing breastfeeding until you can stop naturally.
It is a good idea to check for signs from your child when you think it may be time to stop breastfeeding.
In general, when children can walk on their own and drink liquids from a sippy cup, they may be ready to stop breastfeeding.
It is also important that you do not stop until your child eats 3 meals a day and can get all their required nutrients from food.
It is also a good idea to wait until your child can understand what you say if possible.
Some children react when their mom asks them “do you want to stop or say goodbye to breastfeeding?”. Some children are OK with quitting and others want to continue when asked this question.
Parents want to explain about stopping breastfeeding to their children so that they can understand.
It is suggested that parents decide on the date (time) ahead of time and mark it on the calendar.
Once the date is decided, the mom should take 1-2 months to slowly decrease breastfeeding times and play with their child outside during the day.
If these tips do not work it is a good idea to keep on breastfeeding until you can stop naturally.
There are no rules for stopping breastfeeding. Many children lose interest in breastfeeding when they are able to do more things on their own and become more interested in other activities.
We suggest that you help to increase your child’s interests by attending mommy and me classes.
These classes will help support your child’s development and have a good impact on their growth.
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